blueboygirl 15 Posted April 27, 2018 hi there i wonder if there are many other readers past their 30 or 40s (i'm from the latest) i discovered mangas some 20 years ago and read a lot for professionnal reasons at first, and then for simple pleasure Once upon a job a friend and colleague handed me bl book that his wife enjoyed tremendoulsy. The books were in japanese which i do not read, and i though my eyes would fall from my head. I could not make sense of it of understand why she liked that kind of things Thankfully internet brought some translation, and as my friend kepts teasing me about it, the seed of curiosity cannot help but grow in the human mind (^^;;, i got to read the same title a few years later. I found it tremendously surprising that i could read questions about love and relationship in a deeper perspective I started to wonder if it was because there is no male female antagonism with specific roles and cultural bias.(somewhat outside of the oh so bothersome definition of a mars and a venus can never have the same orbits and seems to belong to different species) I wondered if it allowed to question differently what we can be toward another, and what defines a relationship, how it grows without these inherited pink and blue boundaries I found it immensly refreshing and probably often richer that most josei / seinen in that aspect So i'm still reading bl once in a while, to explore these questions. I suppose that also limit mind readings as i care mostly for a feel of authenticity between characters. I love funny, cute, sincere or deep kind of story. i do not mind the universe i do not care for angst or violent story, i seriously feel sick with everything involving children and i have low tolerance to rape. If you have any suggestions for a good read, i'll be really happy with it, and of course if you have time to comment on your perception of bl manga and the reason for your interest, i'd be sincerly happy to know what you found in there too I'd also be curious to know if you had the same perception toward the different nature of lovers interaction due to them being the same gender (and by that i mean, not the cost of it, but it's benefits) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Paul4U 20335 Posted April 27, 2018 Hello Blueboygirl! Nice to meet you here and a warm welcome to the Yaoi Otaku community. My name is Paul and I hope you will have a happy time on this Forum. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ryuu_L 50 Posted April 27, 2018 Hey ! ^ ^ Welcome to YO! I hope you have a great time here. Feel free to write me at anytime＼(＾▽＾)／ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
blueboygirl 15 Posted April 27, 2018 Hi Paul, Hi Ryuu, thank you for this warm welcome Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Morte Amoureuse 15 Posted April 28, 2018 Hey @blueboygirl I'm rather new to BL as well and I'm 31, I turn 32 this year. I used to look down on yaoi until I ended up reading one by accident, and I realized that there was more to it than dumb silly porn (then again, that was my POV when I was younger, now I'm all for the smut cause I guess I'm more open-minded now that I'm older?). I can honestly say I never gave a thought to how lovers interact just because they're the same gender. I grew up questioning all these gender roles imposed by our society so I've always made a point to tell myself that straight, gay, lesbian, whatever - people are complicated. Some couples may submit to standard gender roles, others may not. I do find it interesting when couples in BL go beyond the whole male/female dichotomy - I think Haru wo Daite Ita is a good example. It sort of pisses me off when couples waste time bickering over who is going to be top - of course, as a straight woman, I cannot provide an opinion as to how this transpires in reality. Personally, I think what draws me in the most is the notion of a love facing obstacles - whether it's Buffy and Angel, two guys, or the bickering badass couple, that's the kind of romance I'm into. And I think many BL mangas/novels have great stories. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crystald 105 Posted April 28, 2018 Hi @blueboygirl! Welcome to YO, I hope you have a great time and lots of fun! Don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions! :leaf: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
littlespiral 15 Posted April 28, 2018 Hello @ blueboygirl! Welcome to the forum~! Wait, your read mangas as a job? that used to be my dream job T__T i mean, how cool it is to be able to read mangas everyday and get paid for it? eheh.. but then i think it would probably be different if you're reading for work rather than for pleasure. yup, yup! i agree. bl genre in general gives us at least a little glimpse of how same sex relationship works. though not all of it are accurate representation of rl, since most yaoi/bl mangas were created by female mangakas and catered (mostly) for female audience, we get the gist of it every now and then and that makes us think, yeah? nevertheless it's an enjoyable read and sometimes it gives me something that i look forward to, for example, a good plot, characters, fluffiness ̶(̶a̶n̶d̶ ̶m̶ ̶o̶n̶ ̶m̶ ̶a̶c̶t̶i̶o̶n̶ ̶m̶e̶h̶e̶h̶)̶ etc. hmm.. i'm bad at suggestions, but you can always check out this section for some good recommendations anyways, i really hope you have good time here~! enjoy your stay and see you around the forum, yeah Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ayakashiu 15 Posted April 28, 2018 Welcome to YO blueboygirl! To answer at least one of your questions..yup, there are some older readers here too, but age is just a number right? ;D And there really are a lot of questions about love an relationships in BL manga, so if you ever want to discuss it or need any help around the forum, feel free to contact me. (: Enjoy~ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miro 4785 Posted April 28, 2018 Hi and welcome to the forum! foxy2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
STARRK 309 Posted May 2, 2018 @blueboygirl Welcome here! (: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
confidant_v 15 Posted May 4, 2018 @blueboygirl Hello and welcome! If you were wondering about stuff to read there's a BL manga reading challenge going on right now. I notice a lot of people are doing it and I've seen people throwing around suggestions on what to read. Maybe you'll find some good things there! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KatieMH25! 5233 Posted May 7, 2018 Hey @blueboygirl I'm rather new to BL as well and I'm 31, I turn 32 this year. I used to look down on yaoi until I ended up reading one by accident, and I realized that there was more to it than dumb silly porn (then again, that was my POV when I was younger, now I'm all for the smut cause I guess I'm more open-minded now that I'm older?). I can honestly say I never gave a thought to how lovers interact just because they're the same gender. I grew up questioning all these gender roles imposed by our society so I've always made a point to tell myself that straight, gay, lesbian, whatever - people are complicated. Some couples may submit to standard gender roles, others may not. I do find it interesting when couples in BL go beyond the whole male/female dichotomy - I think Haru wo Daite Ita is a good example. It sort of pisses me off when couples waste time bickering over who is going to be top - of course, as a straight woman, I cannot provide an opinion as to how this transpires in reality. Personally, I think what draws me in the most is the notion of a love facing obstacles - whether it's Buffy and Angel, two guys, or the bickering badass couple, that's the kind of romance I'm into. And I think many BL mangas/novels have great stories. Hi @blueboygirl Welcome to the YO Forums site!! You have an awesome job, I'm so jealous of you. As for what questions you were asking about relationships and BL in general, I totally agree with the above user. I'm 31 years old and single, straight woman also. If you want to look at some recommendations, you can try this thread as many users recommend their favourites to other members of the site so you can too! http://www.yaoiotaku.com/forums/threads/49775-Your-Hidden-Gems-Underrated-Manga Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome ...I think YES>_< 818 Posted May 23, 2018 @blueboygirl Hello and Welcome to YO, enjoy your stay and have fun ;D Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Morte Amoureuse 15 Posted May 23, 2018 @KatieMH25!, it's nice to see someone around my age with similar points of view! Thank you for sharing that link, I'm always up for discovering more titles. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KatieMH25! 5233 Posted May 31, 2018 @Morte Amoureuse you are welcome!! I felt the same as you and like I couldn't have said it better, though I particularly liked the reference to Buffy and Angel haha XD Glad you liked the link, hope you guys both find it useful Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Morte Amoureuse 15 Posted June 1, 2018 @Katie MH25! I'm sure the link will be helpful! I haven't checked it out yet because I haven't been in need of recommendations since I've been busy with the reading challenge. ^_^ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sensei Sakura 15 Posted June 24, 2018 Hello and welcome! I just joined the forum myself and I am also in my 40s. I Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
