How would you find out if someone is gay?

[cei1104]

When I first got a date with somebody, he asked me out knowing that I was gay, and I always wondered how he knew...

 

I wonder if its some kind of feel or atmosphere.. as for myself, I really can't find out unless one tells me.

[UndertheWeather]

Er, you could always ask the guy. The answer could be as simple as someone (be it a friend or a classmate) who knew of your sexuality told him so.

 

Don't think there's a "feel" or "atmosphere". Here's an interesting

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[andreanitzoo]

Usually, in my country, some gay guy will dressed so casually or styling his hair neatly, but also he will give some kind gay 'pheromone' or atmosphere around.. And the most common thing is he must be unbelievably HANDSOME and HOT!

[Anessen]

Eh, I have just noticed by following a guy's eyes. Usually how a person looks at you can give a lot away (that's how one guy knew I was interested in him). Some can say stereotypical things work (lisp, strut when they walk, dress very well, etc.), but not everybody fits the bill. I'm a man who speaks very low, almost southern voice, most of my wardrobe is from Wal-mart and Fangamer, and I do not act flamboyant at all. Eyes and how a person moves around another gives away a lot more.

[Sparkly Emo Kitten]

As Anessen said, one of the best ways to tell if someone is gay is to observe how someone looks at other people as well as their facial expressions. There are subtle facials cues that people tend to show very briefly upon experiencing certain emotions (called micro expressions) that are nearly impossible to control.

 

You should be cautious when using stereotypical behavior to determine a person's sexual orientation. Not everyone lives up to stereotypes.

[1978]

I feel it when I see or talk to him.

 

And I find that he is more girlish than I can be..

[Tsubakihime]

Hmm, I think men in general are usually homophobe, so they don't do anything like holding hands with other men and only hug them a veeery manly way. But this is, of course, a clear signal that gay couples don't usually do openly.

Then I guess, i agree with the above, although that requires a careful observation. But I don't think one can clearly differentiate gay and non gay just from the look, because some people use certain look and behaviour as their style.

[john faka]

:leaf2:actually,for me i can catch it quickly by looking at their eyes.seriously.its an amazing gift that i'm not proud of.

[Noeli]

I can guess by 2 things 1) expression/movements being it the face or body and 2) the eyes.

Till now I haven't guessed wrong... then again I have to deal with a lot of people every single day, in a way you gain experience like that I guess.

 

However this only counts for males, females I'm clueless... I'll only know when they approach me in a way.

[Myo-kun]

I have no 'gaydar' at all, I'd like to know myself xD

 

In some cases, it's sort of 'obvious' I guess... I know a couple of guys that seemingly put an effort in fitting into every cliche or stereotype about gays...

 

In other cases, no clue. Taking myself for example, a couple of my friends once said I'm the most straight seeming queer they know. I'm bisexual, but whilst I'm not a macho dumbass, I don't really fit into any cliches and I'm definitely not all that 'in touch with my feminine side' or whatever xD

 

I guess the only way someone'd spot it would be if they caught me checking a guy out *smirk*

[Runeko]

Well...There is a "Gaydar" aspect with it,but that usually only comes when you yourself are not straight.It's easier to seek out your own,I think~nya.

[Myo-kun]

Really? I suck at that ^^'...

 

Nyah, maybe it's because practically all my friends are straight... (even the cute/hot ones T.T) xD

[gin]

Hmm let's just say intuition since I like observing people. Kufufufu and the way they talk and act probably.

[PRINCE_Z_E_T_A]

I am not quite sure... I am not fond of genders or how sexuality is made to be It just happens. I suppose just like in Junjou the pheromone thing is true hahahahahaha~~!!! rabbit6

[Peeta]

Well I the way I figure out is that when you are talking to someone you maybe think you're gay and when some cute boy or handsome man walks by, that person gives a very fast glare, it's very very fast, that's the thing. That's the way I notice it.

Also when I see someone looks at me too much and when I looks at him he just stares somewhere else.

[toby2663]

The easiest way if you are that bothered is to just ask them, much more honest and polite than second guessing and making ill formed assumptions about some one based on their outward appearence and your own biased opinion.

[Shin.]

My intuition is 80% right when it comes on knowing a gay guy.

I don't know how I can determine if a guy is gay. It's just happen.

Maybe a gift? Hoho

[breemania]

I grew up raised by my gay uncle, so I guess because of it I have a way of watching expressions and movement and how they act around people they like or might like, I can usually tell pretty quickly that way. hehe

[Usagi-chan]

I would be happy, that's all

[Ero Gaki]

Well, this is hard, considering that i don't have any gay friends or whatsoever. It depends on how accurate my guess is, and if there are signs like blushing towards another male and all that. *activates super intuition* XD

[Marygrace94]

hehe.. i don't know.. maybe in his gestures..

[Black Rose]

With some people, it's not hard to tell, but a couple of my friends told me.

[Gatichan]

No idea. I only have one gay friend, but he was more or less blatantly gay, even though it took him a while to admit it to himself that he was alright and perfect. In another case, I was one hundred percent sure that one of my co-students was gay because he hung around with us girls the whole time and never gave off any I-like-girl-vibes, and in the end he got married to a wonderful girl. But yeah, carefully probing and asking would maybe be the best way if you didn't have any friends who knew about his inclinations

[Auoz]

Dunno usually someone who keeps to themselves or is kind of girly.. not really sure i think just asking would probably be the easier but awkward way of finding out!

[Artist-san]

i think the way that he looks or how he moves .